Thoughts On: Beauty Standards

Hey all! Sorry I didn't post this yesterday - I literally cleaned the entire day. We had brunch in the morning, got home around 12:30ish, and then from 1-11pm...I cleaned out my room. I'm redoing a little bit of it so I had to clean out those parts haha. If you guys want a room tour when I am finished, lmk in the comments!! I'm super excited for how it's going to look:)

ANYWHO. When you're done reading this post, let me know your opinion in the comments below! I'd love to hear it. LET'S GET INTO IT! :)))

For this post, I thought I'd share my thoughts with you on a certain word.

This word is one that is widely used, and not for the right reasons.

The word? Ugly.

I don't particularly care for this word, as I feel it brings negative connotations to phrases where there shouldn't be any. I've been seeing it used a LOT lately, with hashtags such as #growingupugly, or #uglypeople. And these are POPULAR hashtags too!

When we call people ugly, we set standards. Except those standards aren't defined, and there shouldn't be any standards when it comes to beauty, period.

When we introduce the word 'ugly' into the mix, well frankly, things get ugly! People are calling themselves ugly, when in fact, that's just not true. Some people (NOT all, but those people are out there unfortunately) are using it as a form of humility or fishing for compliments, and then others see it and proceed to think of themselves as ugly. They then call themselves ugly, which introduces to a whole new set of people the word, and what it might mean for them. Then we have a bunch of people talking themselves down and it REALLY isn't a help for anyone's self esteem.

Everyone is beautiful, in their own unique way, and no one person looks, and is (personality wise) exactly the same. It's just a fact. So there is no one way to define beauty.

I watched a YouTube video recently (the video wasn't so recent though) from Natalie Belle's channel regarding beauty standards. She pointed out that something along the lines of this: we call sunrises and flowers both beautiful. However, do they look even remotely the same? No! So why should it be the same with people? In order to be beautiful, we don't have to look a certain way.

Being beautiful isn't - or at least, shouldn't be - about how you look. It should be about who you are as a person. Beauty comes from within, and it can't be defined by a certain hairstyle, body feature or makeup look. Beauty isn't defined by the number of guys or girls wanting to be with you, or approving your looks. Beauty is who you are. It's the whole combination.

So remember that, the next time you want to use the hashtag #growingupugly. You didn't grow up ugly, and you're just making the problem that much worse. So why use it? Why lie to the internet? And please, don't use it on anyone else either. Even if you're making a joke at your friend, someone may see/hear it, and think, 'well if they're ugly, then what am I?' Or, your friend may take it to heart more than you know. Let's make the world a better place to live. Cause we are all #growingupbeautiful <3

Till next time!

~Iris xoxo


  1. This was an absolutely beautiful and empowering post Iris and you're absolutely right - everyone's beautiful, no matter what. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! x Thank you so much for sharing! x
    Marina x

    1. Thank you so much - that means a lot :)

      ~Iris xoxo


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